You arrive at the bar where you'll meet your date. It's exciting but you're looking forward to it. You look good and the ride on the bike has not negatively affected your carefully crafted look. Bike locked, you walk to the door and take a deep breath. He must be there already, you are strategically ten minutes late. Being on time is too neat and too early is also not on time! Okay, let's go in! You open the door and look around for him. With your hand still on the door handle, you feel that tonight's not your night. At the bar is a man who looks like your date. Only a few years older, a few kilos more and a little less hair. He sees you immediately and from his enthusiastic smile you do look exactly like your profile picture.
Hopefully this situation is not familiar for you, but unfortunately this happens very often. Photos create expectations and in both cases (positive or negative) it is of no use to you when you start dating. A beautiful photo can only lead to disappointment and a bad photo can make you miss out on a beautiful love because you won't accept an invitation.
Pictures without feelings
In addition, even a good photo says very little about someone. It doesn't say how someone laughs or why someone laughs. How someone sounds, moves or smells. How someone behaves and how the interaction is between you. Can someone make you laugh? Is someone interested and/or interesting? Does someone make you feel good? That's why I never show my clients a photo of their match. I ask them to trust me that I will find a match that suits them in terms of energy level, development and beauty. I grant them that they go on a date without too many expectations and that they simply experience. Like just meeting someone spontaneously. Ok, not entirely by chance, no, completely arranged and planned, but with an open mind in which I challenge you to investigate together why you are here and motivate you to focus on yourself.
It all about you and about you alone
How do you feel next to this date. Which version of you is here? Are you trying to impress or are you teasing? Do you dare to joke or are you looking for words? How someone else makes you feel about yourself is much more important than what you think of someone else. If you feel like the prettiest/best/nicest version of yourself next to someone, then he/she deserves at least a second date. My clients find it quite difficult and exciting to go on a blind date at first, but I've never gotten back that they didn't understand that they were matched. In fact, I recently got this back from a customer:
"I would like to ask you not to tell her that I had already heard of her through the media, but on the basis of an unflattering photo at the time, I didn't think there was a click. That's rude and doesn't do her justice. She is very different from what that picture suggests.”
They have been together for a year now and are very happy together but based on a photo had never gone on a date. Do you dare to go on a blind date? Or do you want to know more? Send me a message!
